I found this and read through it and whereas I can see it/understand it, I disagree, and here’s my angle on why.
I grew up poor, it didn’t mean we gave up, stopped trying and spent ungodly amounts of money on cigarettes ‘because it’s all I have’; I understand saying you’ve been turned down for jobs for not fitting an image is very disheartening because I’ve been there, but if you don’t try, the answer will always be no and no amount of excuses can change that. There are programs out there for people that are in poverty and depressed and if you have the internet to write a fucking blog maybe you should be doing some research on improving your quality of life (and your kids, cuz, really?) because there’s help out there. I can appreciate all the struggles and even having a hard time putting forth the effort to find these programs for the lack of time; and because depression kills your motivation – but your kids should come first, and you’re showing them that giving up is fine and being dirt poor is a permanent condition and in the end, teaching them how to stay poor too.
I have to thank my parents for giving me the gumption to keep pressing on in the face of constant failure and zero money. To this day, I can still hear my moms voice when I’m giving up and tears are streaming down my face.. “crying solves nothing, get up and do something about it”.
We drift ever closer to the dormitory factories of china where you work harder for less and are expected to feel blessed and even honored for having just enough to survive or deal without integral services such as health insurance; where one sickness can ruin a family and people ‘hope’ they don’t get sick and that they’ll be healthy enough in their golden years to keep working so they don’t get left in the street. Where does corporate greed end? Why is it okay for our government to stay in bed with large corporations, further condoning this behavior? Do you know that middle class wages haven’t risen since 1992? If they had, the average household income would be closer to 92k than what it sits at now; 50k.
The real value of minimum wage has risen 21% since 1990 and the cost of living has gone up 67%. We are one of the very few countries that does not mandate any time off for our workers – there are no laws that state that a company may not work someone 7 days a week; we are one of the only countries that does not have ANY paid maternity leave or require annual time off. If it’s being explained to me correctly; I don’t work hard enough, or I’d be doing better. I worked 2 jobs through my pregnancy AND attended college to receive my SECOND degree while my husband also worked full time so that we can secure stability for our family.
Whereas we’re stable now and we have luxuries like cable and internet; I’d never feel confident about retiring if things continue at this pace. It’s going to be a very odd scene when I get old; when there’s a bunch of silver haired people wandering the streets trying to keep warm when the social security is all gone because the government ‘borrowed’ from it and they never made enough to save anything. I guess I’m not working hard enough. I guess I’ll never be as elite as those that look down their nose at me. Gosh.. I’m heartbroken not to be in that club. Frowny face.
So for those of us who are quite aware that our in-laws are going to scrutinize our every move, and in our own homes, no less; or, for those of us who would like to avoid the messy business of the possibilities of in-laws all-together : an in-law prophylactic, if you will; I present to you, the ultimate in sarcastic home finery and their slightly classier alternatives that still manage to say “Get the fuck out.”
1. Serving ice tea to your loving family –
Because if you didn’t advertise it, how would they know?
Feeling a little more classy? Let them know that just seeing them makes you drink.. out of this lovely vintage inspired flask.
both at http://www.urbanoutfitters.com
2. Entertaining in the sitting room –
Make sure there is relatable material for the moments you’re in the kitchen sneaking a xanax.
￼$9.95, Both at http://www.urbanoutfitters.com
3. Giving a tour of your perfectly appointed home –
My house not clean enough for you? Oh now, where’s that rats ass I was going to give?
Both patterns at http://www.shop.subversivecrossstitch.com
4. Letting mom-mom and pop-pop help with bed time –
Even the baby thinks you’re an asshole.
Both at http://www.findgift.com
4. Presenting a gift on a special day –
But we went all out on this!
￼99.99, Both at http://www.wayfair.com